The decision to move a loved one into an assisted living facility is not an easy one. You may face feelings of guilt, inadequacy, denial, and turmoil at the sudden reversal of roles you now face. You may second guess whether your decision to relocate your loved one was the right one to make. How do you cope with that? Here are a few ways to start out.
It’s best to plan in advance whenever possible. There is a great deal of paperwork involved with prolonged care, and getting everything in order in advance will help you cope in the long run. It will also help you become more informed about the care options available for your loved one, helping to avoid second guessing and guilt later on.
In addition, discussing assisted living early with your loved one will help with making the decision to relocate them later. Visiting assisted living facilities with them early on will help open communication on the topic and ensure that you make the best decision possible.
Avoid Second Guessing
It’s important to remember that you are doing the best you can for your love one. It’s perfectly natural to worry about not having all the answers or to feel like you somehow failed them. However, it’s best to avoid focusing on those feelings for too long.
One way that you can alleviate these types of feelings is by being as informed as possible about the decision. Consult with experts on your loved one’s condition. Look at the assisted living options available in your area, and familiarize yourself with their practices, facilities, and staff.
Ultimately, if you feel like you have failed your loved one in some way or made a mistake, remember that those things are in the past. Doing your best to help your loved one now is all that matters, not whatever happened before. If you feel it’s necessary, look into counseling or therapy to help maintain your own emotional health.
Remember that your parent or loved one is still who they always were—mother, father, spouse. Maintaining open communication with them is vital to keeping in touch with who they are and helping them continue to fulfill their role in your life.
Open and honest communication with your loved one can relieve whatever tension may be present in your relationship with them, and can further help remove the guilt you might feel.